This post is actually going to be, for the most part, someone else’s words. Erica Mahoney is a writer and student in the cities and I follow her on Instagram. She has some of the most beautiful and relatable words. This girl makes writing an art and she has the truest gift for it. Her latest post on Instagram was on a subject that I find I cannot talk about, mostly because I do not know how to talk about it. Erica managed to capture exactly just how I feel on this tough subject, which is why I want to share it with you.
For me, love is a tricky topic. Love has given me the gift of life, and at some times it felt like love has taken my life away. I am one of the people who has too big of a heart. I often am the one who loves too much, though never enough.
So, here is the post I wish all of you to read.
“I want to tell you something that somewhere along the way became something we aren’t supposed to talk about. I want to tell you that it’s okay to miss love. It’s okay to miss being in love. I do everyday. It’s not even the person you miss, at least after a while it stops being the person, and just the love itself. The coming home and telling all about your day to them. The feeling that someone cares about you and notices your absence. The silly, goofy, playful you that you only get to be when you’re in love. The falling asleep knowing everything will be okay because you have that person. The kissing in the middle of fighting because you realize how meaningless the argument was in the first place. The good morning texts and how are you’s throughout the day that remind you that it’s not just you. It’s not just you alone in this world. That you have someone who wants to give their time to you, and isn’t just obligated to.
And I know, believe me, I know how important it is to be on your own for a while and find yourself and know who you truly are as your own being. But at the end of the day, being in love is such a beautiful thing, and once you’ve experienced it, it can feel almost wrong to live without it in you life. And it’s okay for us to say that sometimes.” –Erica Mahoney
We humans have an underlying need to be loved by another person. We long for the satisfaction of knowing that someone in this world wants to make you their whole world. We often make horrible mistakes when it comes to loving someone, and by that we take advantage of cheap love, only to fill the void we are all missing. Do not fall for cheap love. Fall for the person who loves you unconditionally and without obligation. Falling in love is, in my eyes, the easiest thing we can do. It is very easy to fall in love with anyone, but miss the mistake of being in love for the wrong reasons. Love someone for the right, honest, and selfless reasons. Do not love to fill the void.